Love Language + Understanding the way your partner communicates.
Imagine what love would look like if we all loved in the same way, with the same conviction and discipline, the same level of over compensating affection or the exact opposite.
We all love differently – We all speak it, show it & define it DIFFERENTLY. It takes a lot to understand, that just because our partner doesn’t love with the same emotional intensity that we may exude, doesn’t mean their love wavers any.
A lot of it may be generational | it’s hard to really know how to love in ways you’ve never been exposed to.
ACTS OF AFFECTION | ACTS OF SERVCE | BALANCE & UNDERSTANDING
My Love Language consist of the balance of acts of service + acts of affection + the ability to understand my partners love language or at least continue to try to. I communicate by showing up – being present in the areas that are most essential and appreciated. I have this nurturer | empathetic (I “
gotta” save the world) personality and need to carry the weight of whatever my partner is feeling – you know, to be a safe space. The flip side of being all these great things is we can’t expect our partners to reciprocate love in that same way and if they dont, the first thing we think is “Why can’t he/she love me the way I love him/her.
JUST BECAUSE THE LANGUAGE ISN’T THE SAME DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE NOT SAYING THE SAME THINGS.
Acts of Affection: Here, your partner gives you this overwhelming sense of protection in the form of affection. You are constantly reminded how much you’re loved by hugs and warmth. Words go far with this type of person. It’s an overwhelming blanket of unconditional dote – Sweet nothings rolling off the tongue, sweet like Sunday morning. Acts of Affection don’t require monetary exchange.
Acts of Service: Here, your partners love language consists of being a provider, being hard working and making sure you want for nothing. There is nothing to grand that you are not worthy of in their eyes. The kind of love that brings you random gifts on a Thursday afternoon just because they “knew it would make you happy”.
Your Partner Won’t Be EVERYTHING you need | That’s not reality | They will lack in some area, but the goal should be at least to come close | at least be willing to hear your partner out when they attempt to communicate their needs and desires to you and at least be wiling to TRY. There’s great passion in effort.
I MEAN HAVING A SOLID COMBINATION OF BOTH IS IDEAL TOO.
Balance & Understanding: Yes, our love languages are different and for some it can be a deal breaker because a standard has been set, but what happens if the love language you’re receiving isn’t delivered in the form of the love you want, in my opinion and in my experience it doesn’t mean your partner loves you any less, it just means to them they are doing the best they can do with what they know or how they know to love (keep in mind the kind of love they were exposed to is also a contributing factor). The Understanding in knowing although the love language may be different – There’s a balance created when an effort is shown.