6 reminders while you journey through healing & self love
Cheers to you if you are journeying through anything that is currently allowing your heart to grow, to love, and to flow. These reminders reflect things I keep close to my heart during every shift and every season.
Give yourself GRACE. The journey, at times, especially in the midst of shadow work, will feel dark. It may often feel lonely because everything you once knew, you are re-learning. The person you thought you were, those layers are shedding (the layers of trauma and hurt that you’ve been carrying) and you are re-loving yourself all over again. Give yourself grace through it all. Healing isn’t an overnight thing. Healing isn’t linear. Your journey will not resemble the next person's, even if the situations and circumstances are similar. Give yourself space and grace to feel exactly what you need to feel. You have to feel to heal.
Don’t take on more than you can handle. Why are you overwhelming yourself? Leave room for you. No matter how busy your days may get, there should always be space and room for us to be able to tap back into ourselves. We take care of so many people, we pour into the hearts of many, where is that love for self? Imagine working a 9-5, coming home, taking care of a house, kids, etc., and having to wake up and repeat that same cycle. Please leave room for yourself.
As you grow spiritually, your body will become sensitive to what’s not for you. Honor your intuition while you journey through healing. Certain things may not resonate with you anymore, people may feel out of alignment, and situations may feel forced. Your body will send you signals of what's not for you through anxiety, flight, fight, or freeze responses.
Your boundaries are there to protect you. While you journey through anything, it's almost like a rebirth, a new becoming, layers are being shed, and at times like this, those boundaries you’ve set, the art of saying NO, ignoring a call, knowing that you are not obligated to anyone and neither is your time and energy. Knowing that access to you is a privilege. You don’t have to do anything or be anything for anyone. Putting yourself first always means revoking access from people and situations that aren’t meant to journey with you.
Stop forcing what’s not meant for you. When things are for you, they will simply flow. They will show up and show out without question, insecurity, doubt, or moments of second-guessing. I always say, “If it doesn’t resemble the divine's love for me, it’s not for me, because God loves me enough to not send me anything negative.”
Honor the art of self-forgiveness. Letting go has also meant releasing the need for an apology to serve as a means of healing. Acknowledge that you may never receive the accountability you are searching for, and understand that another person's lack of accountability should never hold weight in your healing process. (read more about my thoughts of forgiveness here)
